General 'chew the fat' topic. 'What have I learned through Age?'

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General 'chew the fat' topic. 'What have I learned through Age?'

This is simply general chat and is open to Abc folks of any age. 'What have I learned through age?' The thing I have learned as the years go by is that, for me, often a person's views and opinions are the least part of them. My everyday friends have a broad sweep of views and often we say what we think and agree to differ. I feel I truly know people not by their views but by their deeds. What do you guys think? What do you feel you 'know now' that has changed from in the past?

perhaps is takes a lifetime to know yourself. I was thinking about this after (review to follow) of one of the books I was reading. I'm always meeting my better self going back the way I've come and smoothing things out. I don't know anything much. And I don't know much well. 


Hi Elsi,

the one thing I've learnt growing up, is that there's been a pattern to my life, like a patchwork quilt, a collection of events that lead up to now. I understand why they happened and the meanings behind them.

I'm contented now, because I lived such a full life while I was young and growing up, so I don't crave the high life anymore, not even travelling too far from home.

I don't know if I understand myself better now, but to be contented is by far the most important thing.


Yes, contentment can be good. I was thankful that my hot bus made it to Sidmouth yesterday after a traffic delay and that I had my sunhat, water and factor 30. The sea was warm enough for a good paddle. The heatwave may mean that the sea remains warm for a long time. And I  saw  Nessie! She has reincarnated herself in a park near the churchyard by Sidmouth bus terminus and become a garden sculpture.

can i join in?


a couple of things  - 

I spent too long believing 'you can't judge a book by it's cover'. I believe this is true of books. the saying should be 'you can't ALWAYS judge a book by it's cover'. 

and - fashion is for sheep. and teenagers.


Books and covers, I have pondered this myself. Smiths and Waterstones both market books by their covers so us the punters can tell 'sex and shopping' from 'whodunnit' from 'misery memoir' from 'arty literary' at a second's glance. However the quality of writing varies and can surprise in a good way. As for fashion, I do my own thing in a standard way with charity shops. I have two friends who run indie charity shops close to where I live, usually tops are £1 and summers dresses and jeans £1 or £2. I have to admit I colour my hair so I am a 'dark champagne blonde' sheep!