By ice rivers
All comedies end with marriage.
How does the comedy that ends with marriage begin?
Usually begins with attraction.
When the comedy ends, the state of antagonistic co-operation known as matrimony begins.
Sometimes matrimony leads to acrimony.
The antagonism gets the better of the co-operation.
Antagonism within the confines of co-operation is the most natural matrimonial state.
We push each other to get more out of each other than we we would have gotten from either of us if we hadn't pushed.
The end result is more productive than we imagined even as the comedy was still laugh tracking along.
When it works according to plan.
When the relationship works, we have partners.
When the relationship fails to work, we have opponents.
Partners are free to oppose one another.
That's part of antagonistic co-operation.
Partners cease to be partners when we become opponents.
The difference between an opposing partner and an opponent is the difference between weather and climate.
Our opposing partner tends to enrich our lives.
An opponent is, by definition trying, to diminish our lives.
The line is thin but critical.
If we choose an opponent rather than a partner or if what was once a partnership turns irretrievably oppositional, then our individual lives within the relationship are diminished.
An unhappy marriage has two losers.
If we choose a partner rather than an opponent or if our natural antagonism stays within the boundaries of co-operaation, then our individual lives ar enriched.
A happy marrriage has two winners.
Loser or winner?
Partner or opponent?
We are responsible for our decisions and the consequences of our decisions.
We can't give up before the miracle
Nor hang on for the heartbreak that might have been avoided.
Mystery becomes history.
Comedy becomes drama.