Taking a Look at Love
By ice rivers
Let's take a look at love.
Romantic love demands obstacles,
As we fall in love, as mystery turns to history, we slowly discover the obstacles and barriers that exist between us. The more romantic we are, the more we intend to embrace our obstacles while simultaneously combatting them.
Let's face it, we cherish the obstacles that make us weep with frustration and wounded dreams. Their solution removes the weight of conscience from dulling our resolve as we realize that all's fair in whatever this is.
Our obstacles provide our loved one and ourselves with a common enemy which includes an excuse for our hesitations toward more legal levels of committment. These obstacles delay us from marriage which is not only the end of comedy but also the end of "falling" in love as practicality swoops in and the long, brave journey of anatagonistic co-operation begins.
We love falling in love.
The rest not so much.
It was natural for us to fall in love because as we fell, we flew and as we flew we discovered ourselves through the eyes and on the wings of another. Our lover did what we wanted, what we imagined, what we craved, what we needed. We knew each other through each other which means we didn't know each other any better than we knew ourselves.
" I know it was good for you, how was it for me?" etc.
As our love matures with/through and despite marriage, it becomes something that we live for. Our differences become clear and invitations to grow and thrive as illusions disappear, if wse hang in there.
On the other hand......
When we think of immature, romantic love, we eventually arrive in Verona where Romeo and Juliet considered their love something to die for
Which they did.
If Romeo and Juliet had lived, their story would be far less romantic, more epic, more courageous, more indomitable but less romantic.
They would have become a married couple, nowhere near perfect enough to be tragic.
A play might not have been written.
Unless it was a history.