Creative writing tuition
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Sun, 2003-10-26 21:00#1
Creative writing tuition
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This reply is particularly intended to Cindy Mann, the one who wanted to write a book about her life with her Muslim husband. Cindy, marriage with even the tiniest amount of cultural or religious differences poses a big problem, not only in the society, but also within the families of the couple. In any marriage sharing of values and mutual acceptance of each others' views is very important. For a human, his primary subject of value is the faith and belief he has in God, His Creator. He says he is of this particular religion based on the concept of God and the way of life prescribed. When there is contradiction on this fundamental value itself, there will definitely be flaws in the relationship. In my knowledge, Islam allows a Muslim man to marry a Christian or Jewish woman only under the condition that the children born out of the marriage and the environment is which they settle in must adhere to Islamic values. A non-muslim woman who marries a Muslim must be ready to accept this and harmonize her life as much as she could. In order to prevent problems of all sorts, its best she accept his religion and share everything with him. If not, she should at least give respect to his views and act accordingly. I can very well understand that your views are also the same. But what I cannot accept from your query is about non-muslim girls being 'destroyed' by Muslim men. Muslims are meant to propagate peace and susbmission to the Divine Power and live with their wives, Muslim or Christians, in bliss. This is the Islamic ruling for Muslim men and if they violate it, they are commiting a major sin. I'm trying to say that you cannot generalize Muslim men as 'destroyers'. Some people don't practice what their religion says, that's all. I hope that your husband and his family understand your position and make things easier for you. [%sig%]
hi, for the last coupe of years i have been thinking nabout writing my own book based on true life experiences....the subject is married to a muslim. i have been in a relationship with a muslim man for 9 years(married but only in his way,not mine)i have 2 girls by him aged 3 and 6. i would like to write the book to educate young girls who think it is ok to go out with muslim men(like i did in the beginning)it is not ok it is very very difficult and soul destroying. i am still with my husband at the moment but only because of my children,they would be very upset if they never saw their dad again and thats what he has told me,IF I LEAVE HIM HE WILL BREAK ALL TIES WITH THE GIRLS BCAUSE THEY WILL NEVER BE PROPER MUSLIMS IF LIVING WITH ME... where i live their are alot of pakistani muslims and they are popular with the girls,maybe if they knew what lies ahead then they might think again! when you marry a muslim man you marry his family too,they take over your life,you become so unhappy,lose your identity and never be yourself again. i know alot of people who hav been in relationships with muslim men and they have all been destroyed in one way or another. we are worlds apart from these people and it will never work ,there is just to much involved,not fair on the kids either,my daughter is only 6 and is already experiencing problems in school from other asain kids who call her a gori because her mum is white and i feel so bad. i could never in a million years have imagined what lay ahead of me...
do you think i could write a book on this subject?
I'm sure it would make a good book, Cindy. Marrying a Muslim man is something that needs very careful consideration, to anyone who is reading this; as a "Christian" woman you'll always be considered second-class by the family who will expect domestic subservience especially if they're not well-educated. This isn't racist of course; I know of several marriages between Asian christians and white Brits which are fine (though there are still family cultural issues) and there are Pakistani christians I'd love to have as a son or daughter-in-law - but differences in culture AND religion together (and Islam comes as a package of both) make huge barriers. Best wishes Cindy, I hope you find a way through.
If you have the need to write down anything, then that is a start. My compulsion to write, and reflect upon my life in private, has been going on since becoming a teenager. It's a way of getting through life for me. My experiences by no means compare with the emotional torture you are going through at the moment, but I am sure your writing it down will help you through. The problem I experienced, however, is the writing down means you have to be careful to secure you written words somewhere. A partner who claims to love you, but who you feel is oppressive and possessive, will be sure to use your words to try to prove what an unworthy person you are, something you must reject and never believe! Whatever religious leanings you have, first of all you must believe in yourself, not fall down the hole of being second best or believing that you are anything less than wonderful. Your writing, over the course of time will help you see the kind of emotional journey you have been through, to learn more about yourself, your strengths AND weaknesses. If you can, see all those around you as having their own, rather selfish motives; often a bossy and arrogant person is weak inside, they need the 'victim' in anyone to make them feel good and in control. See beyond them and you'll notice their frailties are even more complex than your own. At this stage in your life, I think it would be good to just restrict you efforts to note-taking about your life as it is. Not only will this help to build up a picture for yourself, should you need it in the future, but it does provide a way of you letting off steam. Some time in the future, when you have a clearer head, you may choose to use your notes to fictionalise your experience. Depending upon where you are, there may well be others around who have gone through the same nightmare. There may even be a support group which will help. Your notes may also be useful to build up an outline so that, should you have the courage one day, you can legally disentangle your life from someone who cannot appreciate you in the way you wanted. In the meantime, writing anything about anything else will help to keep you sane and give you time for writing experience, as well as taking your mind on an emotional holiday. I found a local writing group, which provided me with this easy outlet. I formed friendships which have lasted for years. Some of us broke away and formed a poetry group, which lead to performance poetry in pubs and clubs, theatres and visitor centres, something my early shyness would never have allowed. It is great for getting our work appreciated, but not the only way through. In all, I ploughed my own furrow, went my own way, listened to my own inner voice. Your mind and heart are your source of all you creative abilities and you must protect them from being spoilt or darkened by waves of battles of concience. Your inner voice knows what you should do. Good luck for the future, whatever you decide. J.K.
Hi there would love to either, talk to you or by email about writing > I have a diploma in creative writing, > with some small work published > may consider, some more tuition as regards to learning a lot more any way do get back to me, and we can take it frome there for a chat if know more, kind wishes thomas from IRELAND. > POMES PUBLISHED . > CANDLE LIGHTS, STRANGERS WORD. AND MORE
Hi there would love to either, talk to you or by email about writing > I have a diploma in creative writing, > with some small work published > may consider, some more tuition as regards to learning a lot more any way do get back to me, and we can take it frome there for a chat if know more, kind wishes thomas from IRELAND. > POMES PUBLISHED . > CANDLE LIGHTS, STRANGERS WORD. AND MORE Daphne wrote: > Creative writing graduate with lots of experience offers one to > one tuition to new writers. If you think you may benefit from > creative writing exercises, advice, and in-depth, constructive > feedback, email email@example.com or call 07904385375 > for a chat. Prices are very reasonable and concessions are > available according to your circumstances. >
I'm confused. The thread went straight from Creative Writing tuition to intercultural marriage... in one jump. Daphne, I'd start again if I were you. And take a look at this - http://www.write-across-europe.com I'm looking for tutors for other courses. Email me if you're interested.
Hi I wondered if anyone could recommend an on-line UK based creative writing course, your thoughts on your experience of it would be extremely helpful Ta! L [%sig%]