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When are you going to realise that you just aren't cutting, or witty, or funny? You just ramble incoherently, mixing in a few tired insults. Do you even know what a brown nose is? Please hurry up and die, for the sake of humanity, AJ. No, really.

Okay thats enough, both of you.

I can't bear to see this thread drop off the page whilst it's stuck on '69'. That's no sort of number for AJ.

Ya old loopy fruit Missi.

Me too. I didn't want to get involved in this (other than trying to stop it above) but now Karl's left me feeling very guilty. I started writing on the forums during my mum's last months and, because it was the only outlet I had at the time, I used to write a lot of my pain here. Jackie was going through something similar with her dad but she still had time to be there for me as only and older, wiser woman can be for a scared shitless 20 something girl. Consequently Jackie will always have a place in my list of really fuc.king cool people. I like you hen, as I believe I mentioned last week at some point. But Karl's right. You've got AJ figured all wrong.

Aren't you needed over in the asylum, Flashy?

Your dictionary needs to catch up with the modern world, AJ. As do you.

I'm not a bloody moderator you know......they materialize out of the blue when you're not looking without any explanation. I like this asylum too.

Aw heck why not? Jon's problem is, and he would never acknowledge it, is that he is in possession of an embryonic brain that has great possibilities, but he lacks the experience of life that teaches you that very little is black and white and whether he likes it or not, (and we've crossed tongues over this before) older people, have in the main, a better balance to their assessment of what's important in life. Sorry Jon, but you need to shut your mouth a bit more and open your ears. And I'll repeat what I said on another thread, your comment about AJ dying soon is absoluteley disgusting and you should feel ashamed of yourself and apologise. OK, now go for me.

Henstoat, I have refrained from saying anything for a week and a half because I am part of the Burgeon management and tend to get it in the neck from both users on the one hand and Tony and Mark on the other when I am provocative or critical of anything or anyone. Because I don't want to do anything to undermine Tony and Mark's efforts in running this site, I say the following from a very personal point of view. In emotional and literary terms you are but a babe in arms. Your comments to AJ on 26 April are the most odious thing I have ever read on these threads in four years, and God knows, that takes some doing. Best you go to the shallower and calmer waters of UKA and learn to behave, write, look and listen.

so the bullies are now angels and the trolls shall inherit the earth! amen!

Have they fallen out?

You're an asylum seeker then, Flash?

I’ve seen very similar posts by others which have not been condemned and while I agree that Hen got carried away with some of his comments it's not really surprising since it has been suggested, amongst other things, that his mother should not have had any children! However, ABC threads have improved a lot recently and it's time for everyone to attempt to attack the arguments rather than the poster - or at least make it plain that insults are meant to be humorous, or, at least, constructive. So instead of singling out Hen - who does make some very important contributions to the threads - let's just say poor judgement Hen, time to let it drop. It takes two to tango so AJ should try to do the same. While I'm at it I appologise to all those who I have offended in the past. PAX!

I'm not convinced by any of this, and there's no reason for me to apologise. I've just indulged in the same baiting/flame warring that many people here have a go at, and Missi actively encourages/believes in/loves and cherishes. That I've disgusted people just shows I'm very good at it, because, let's face it, disgusting each other is the point. Having said that, thanks to Karl and Vicky for being reasonable about it. I may well have the person you know figured wrong, but I'll address AJ as she presents herself on these threads, and she is consistently vile in every respect. If she acted like this only when provoked, I could sort of understand, but she goes out of her way to start these things. You just wait - the next off-hand insult dealt in a thus-far flame-free thread will be from her to me, and not vice-versa. Missi - think about how badly misjudged you feel when people you have met either not at all, or very briefly, try to dissect your personality, and entertain the possibility that you are doing exactly the same thing. This 'emotional experience' thing is just a grand delusion anyway - something to comfort you older people. "Well, I've lost my youth, but I'm *mature*, so it's OK!" Funny how, despite this supposed learning curve, people both older and younger than me behave in exactly the same way. I'm not saying you aren't *capable* of great maturity (of emotion *and* action,) but no more capable than me. We all fluctuate. Anyway, why on earth have you all reinvigorated this thread when it was a week dead?

i'm at home in any asylum Emma.........don't know why but i am.

Was in poor taste, but I've certainly seen worse here - a great deal of the "Tickling Tanya" thread, a dreadful geezer from ages ago who threatened to punch someone's teeth down their throat and seemed pretty genuine about it, not to mention the rare and unpleasant occasions when people have gone way overboard and begun sending abusive/threatening/stalking emails, texts etc. I don't think Hen should have said it, and he should have apologised, but I don't think he needs to be castigated for it any more. It's done. I have to say that I think AJ was well and truly squaring up for the fight (and that's not saying who was to blame for the spat, because I neither know or care and I accept that she may not have signed up for something quite as personal as the response she got) - but as I recall, there was a lot of name-calling and goading on both sides. Let's get some perspective back. How about we go over to the discuss writing thread and actually do a bit of that?

know the feeling...

Everybody thinks he shouldn't have said except himself, but then he is an arrogant lad. Maybe when he becomes an adult he will see the error of his ways and behave like the rest of us.

sorry to disappoint brown nose, I may have shitferbrains, but tis better than the verbal diarrhoea that emanates from the orifice that you assume to be of a higher intelect than the rest of us mere mortals. Your move I believe..........

Look Rachel, Aj spelt Intellect incorrectly as well.

I agree that, however inappropriate Hen's comments were, it was by no means a one-sided slanging match. It got badly out of hand as other threads have in the past and others will in the future. So, as Andrew so wisely suggests, lets draw a line under it and MOVE ON!. [%sig%]

Do we HAVE to choosy, I was rather hoping for a cyber-punch-up to bring me inspiration. *walks off into corner and sulks*

Nope. No irony, because I'm not kidding myself. I *know* I'm just engaging in a pointless exchange of insults. When people attack Paul, they make out that his persistant attacking of other forum members is a trait only he possesses, and that they're guardians of the peace or something. Although....I guess I still consider myself better than AJ - purely because I know damn well I *lower* myself to these silly exchanges (and, really, only for AJ, of late, and possibly Faith,) whereas this is her normal way of dealing with people she has a problem with. If she was a serious thorn in my side though, I wouldn't deal with her like this. Silent treatment every time! So, hmm, rethinking that - maybe I don't think I'm better than AJ per se, but I think I can, and do, behave better most of the time. This has all been just a few lazy, impulsive moments in the day for me. Admit it - it takes effort not to reply to goading and baiting, to think of something better to do with the time. Lately, I just can't be arsed.

"Maybe when he becomes an adult he will see the error of his ways and behave like the rest of us." One moment you want me to apologise, quell my arrogance and act maturely, the next you want me to behave like the rest of you! Make up your damn mind! Anyway, I have to be arrogant. It's the best substitute I have for confidence. Here's a compromise - I will no longer practice beating AJ at her own game. That seems to be what everyone's complaining about.