In Gabrielle Roth's book 'Maps to Ecstasy' she tells the story of a monk who falls in love with a woman. He goes to another monk, tells him then asks 'What should I do?' The older monk says, 'Follow your ecstasy.' Obviously, I think he chose to be with the woman he's in love with, no matter what else he had to give up. I don't understand why he wouldn't. I don't.