Clairvoyant and psychic...

I found a blog recently from someone using the name ‘contact1111’ and it was extremely interesting, not unique but it is good to find that others have the same views as does (to a degree) oneself. I am particularly interested in the comment made about –

"If our thoughts create our life, being told your future by a psychic, I believe, is disempowering. It also can be dangerous. For example; If you are about to get married and your psychic tells you the pending marriage won’t work out, after she got everything else right, this information will play on your mind, until you manifest it and make her right. There is a strong possibility that she could have interpreted the information regarding the marriage incorrectly."

I personally have done readings and others have called me a clairvoyant, psychic, seer, (among other things) etc., but to be honest, I don't feel that I like any of these identifications.

My honest belief is that I was endowed with gifts due to a 'near death experience' I had when I was 3 years old. I thought for many years, that it was nothing but a dream, partly good and partly bad, and you can imagine my surprise when I found out that this event actually took place. I won't bore the reader with the details at this time, but mention it just in passing because I believe it was this out of the body experience that triggered some intuitive /spiritual/ awareness which I would otherwise not have had. Of course, the fact that I was semi bed-ridden for the first eleven years of my life may have given me the advantage of meditating or thinking more than other children would have done during those formative years.

Coming back to the comment above, I fully agree with it. To actually tell someone what to do under the heading of being a psychic is terribly wrong. I believe a good "reader" (I prefer to call myself this) should refrain from using such methods.

First of all, when someone wanted my counsel, I would tell them not to reveal anything about themselves. Why? Because my readings were better and more reliable than if they had told me this or that about themselves, so to pick up events that were correct, eliminates fear and lessens skepticism somewhat, but skepticism is good and I welcome it.

Secondly, I would try to make them understand that whatever I may see or not, we all have “free will” and that it is important that all who came or will come to me in the future, have a clear understanding what this means. Thus, I would never tell a person that he is useless, incapable, and unlucky and so on. It is also important to know that I was always truthful (common sense is a good guide here) about what I saw and if I saw nothing, there would be no reading and naturally, no charge.

I remember on one occasion, I read at a market and an old friend, a Hungarian woman I knew for many years insisted on sharing my table to do readings with me. I had a young Indonesian gentleman come to me for a short and brief outline of a reading and he left very satisfied with whatever I said. My friend insisted on reading for him as well (which I really thought was quite unprofessional because a respectable reader does not force him/herself upon others, especially when she actually charged him for it) while I had a ten minute break. When I returned, it was her turn to have a break. While she was absent, the same young Asian gentleman came to me and told what had transpired in my absence. She had told him that (a) he was extremely unlucky and would thus never have a business of his own; (b) he would never get married; (c) he won’t have any children; (d) that he should go back to Asia. As it turned out, he was married, had a lovely little baby girl, had his own business which was growing and improving from day to day.

I humbly apologized and thanked him for his feedback. I was shocked.

Needless to say, I asked my friend not to come back with me ever again and pointed out that she could have done a great deal of damage with her words. Being in a position where one’s words can influence someone else’s actions and life, it is imperative that we do not make a person, that may need help in deciding what to do in order to have a better life, feel worse than when they come to us in the first place. I am still friends with her but slightly cautious because I have noticed that she will say anything and do anything to get what she wants out of life even if it is not ethical.

Therefore, it is imperative to be aware of those psychics, mediums, readers that ask too many questions. When you decide to have your reading done next, choose wisely and don’t reveal anything until ¾ of the way through, after you have decided on whether the information is actually relevant to you or your circumstances.

In most cases, a good clairvoyant/reader will reveal 2-3 eventual circumstances about you or those around you and to ask you to say either “aye” or “nay” and the purpose for this confirmation is to establish that 2 out of 3 instances are correct, if they are incorrect then clearly the person has had a reading within 2 to 3 days or even hours before. In such cases it is better to say that the reading may be conducted another time.

In all the years I have had the pleasure of reading, I can honestly say that, with the exception of one who would not accept the fact that her desired man had no interest in her because he was happily married, I have helped many readjust and make a new start in life by grasping the options available to them they would otherwise not have been aware of.

But having such gifts can also be quite lonely because in many cases one’s popularity only lasts so long as you can give them free advice and it is often difficult to accept that you are not liked for yourself but for the gift you possess.